How does one get on the path of healing? Do you need to go to a special place? Do you need to meet a spiritual guru? No, the path is pretty simple, you carve it yourself, in your own way in your own time. One more thing… it never ends. It a journey.
To get on the path to healing is simple.
- You are tired of living a life of poor physical or mental health
- You are ready to feel better
- You take steps to feel better, however small they may be
“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao Tzu
Some people say they are ready, but then never make the plan to change their ways. It does not matter how often you say it, without action, you are still at the train station waiting for the train.
I suppose one could say that I have been on a healing path for years. Its true, one path leads to another path, then another, then another and so on. However, I would say that I have made a sincere conscious effort since 2012 to truly direct myself in a way that serves me and others.
How did that path start?
I realized that I needed to do something different with my lifestyle. Although I have been interested and practicing alternative health for many years including practicing homeopathy, I really began to question a lot of things at this point.
It should be noted that I had a very intense experience one night in the summer of 2012 that changed my view of everything. It actually started with a dream. I woke up in the middle of night, all charged up and said to myself – “I am here now”. Crazy, yes. However, it is also profound. What had happened to me that night was a miracle. I am still not certain as to what happened or how, but I had what you could call the equivalent of an NDE (near death experience). I literally had a full life review from the time I was a little baby to the current time.
What I saw, was like a movie from a birds eye perspective. I saw myself as a loving spiritual being making my way through life, only that I was far too hard on myself. As the bird, I could not understand why I spent so much of life with such uncertainty and so much disdain towards myself. Yes, I say that, because it is true. I guess in this birds eye view, I was looking at my life from my “higher self” so to speak. My higher self has a much different view and opinion of me than my ego. My higher self sees everything as a learning experience and doesn’t judge people or situations the way my ego does.
I started to make a change in my lifestyle.
I began with making green juices. I had seen her a few times on the internet, Cherie Calbom “the juice lady” and she looks amazing for her age. Everything she was saying was making sense.
“Let juice be your medicine and your medicine be your juice. May you be healed body, soul, and spirit.” – Cherie Calbom, M.S., C.N.
I started having juices 2 times a day, 5 days a week. I gave myself the weekends to eat good size meals as I was detoxing originally. In two weeks, I started to see the whites of my eyes a lot brighter and in one month, I noticed a visible change in my hair, skin and nails, especially my skin.
Eventually, juicing this often was a bit too much for me, so I changed it to once a day 3-4 days a week. I didn’t want to overdo it and then feel like I didn’t want to do it anymore. I often juiced at night instead of the morning as it was really working for me. I have switched it up a few times since then, however, the major shift from just eating your typical meat, veggies and starch had now shifted.
I started this way of eating at age 42 and it really made a difference in how I viewed the world.
Along the way, I learned different things that really worked for me on the healing path
- Travelling helps me see the world through different eyes. It also helps me feel excited about the future, aligns me with my goals of seeing the world, and helps me feel more compassion for others
- Exercise doesn’t have to be a 4 letter word. If you don’t like going to the gym, that doesn’t mean you can’t exercise. I exercise almost every day and it starts with walking. I walk in the park, I get closer to nature and stretch. I also do a lot more, but this is where it starts.
- Joy is a choice. So is pain. How we react to things is a choice.
- We are not responsible for other peoples reactions or feelings about us.
- Helping others will always help you out of a depressed state
- Although making money is important for our well being, it is not where I get the greatest joy
- Don’t eat big meals after 6pm (No, we’re not going to change into ugly gremlins if we eat past this time, only we are going to feel a lot better 😉). Your body is already shutting down at that time and metabolic processes are slowing down.
- Wait 5 minutes after eating a meal to see if you want seconds (9 times out of 10, I stop eating)
- We do not NEED to eat meat. It truly is a false perception that we need to eat it. (Have you seen any meat eating Gorillas? Read this article for more on them. Despite that I have eaten meat for most of my life. However, I have not always enjoyed it. I never really liked it that much – I was trained to eat it. I prefer a vegetarian lifestyle.
- One day at a time. One moment at a time.
- Kindness matters. No matter whom you come across that is having a bad day and chooses to be cross with you, do not let them bring you down or succumb to their level. You are in control of how you feel, remember.
Now that its almost 2018 as I write this, I have learned a few more things that have made my life genuinely better.
One of my best friends that I met at the tender age of 5 finally came back into my life after almost 10 years! She is a great inspiration to me that people can change and get out of bad habits. With her it was drinking alcohol. In 2016, after some bad exchanges with another friend, I realized that I needed to stop drinking alcohol. Although I would never have considered myself to be a serious drinker, I knew that it wasn’t improving my life or making me a better person. I could see that it was a habit that was not building my character. Also, I was beginning to realize that it was in fact a poison and it was causing my body to have inflammation. (I later tested this out.)
Over the years, I had a lot of experiences with people close to me who had drinking problems. I really began to question how alcohol became a substance that people thought was cool and exciting. I will say that I enjoy a martini or margarita, but to drink it regularly is not a good thing for my body or my mind. There’s really nothing cool about the behavior that comes from regular drinking. Thus, this ended.
What happened after that was amazing. My body started to re-shape itself. Yes, although I have always been what you may call slender, I got thinner and more refined, more in the shape that I wanted to see. Suddenly I lost a lot of “padding”. I started to see the shape of the muscles in my arms and legs. I could see abs!! This was all from not drinking! Not to mention that I was also feeling a lot better. No more feeling foggy in the morning from having had drinks the night before. My hair was less frizzy, my mind a lot clearer and my body was feeling great! No more inflammation!
As I write this, my goals for wellness are growing… as it is a journey, I am remembering how important it is to keep in tune with them.
- Continue on my path to wellness with new and different exercise patterns. I learned acroyoga on a cruise I went on this year with Nomadcruise. This actually requires another blog. However, acroyoga is an absolute blast and Ive seen people of all ages doing it. All that is required is your sincere desire to learn!
- I also found tai chi while walking in the park and absolutely LOVE how meditative it can be
- Staying healthy is a choice as much as it is a way of living. My choice to juice and have good clean healthy food continues to work for me.
- I am learning a new language – Spanish! After travelling to Spain and then across the Atlantic with the digital nomads, I found myself realizing how little I know in terms of language. Almost every European travelling on board had at least 2 languages with 3 languages being the norm. As a North American, I knew I could do better.
- Being helpful to others who want my help and are ready to make changes – this is paramount to my long term goals
- Continue to travel with wellness as the main focus
- Be a wellness advocate!
- This list will continue to grow…
Finding your path to healing is as easy as recognizing you want to be on one and making the first move. Are you ready to heal?